Have you ever been called a flirt?

Good for you!

You see, flirting is an excellent indication that you are Paying Attention.

In fact, it is impossible to flirt without being mindful. You cant be all wrapped up in your thoughts, or distracted by worries about tomorrow. You are Right There, in the moment, picking up on subtle signals and dealing out your own.

Mindfulness requires these four steps:

Noticing something new (Hmmmhes attractive.)
Making distinctions (I like his eyes when he smiles.)
Shifting perspectives (He dresses like a jock but hes a music teacher.)
Staying fully present (Hes flirting with me!)

Flirting requires people smarts-interpersonal intelligence-but its also a great opportunity to flex your spatial intelligence (seeing visual cues) and bodily/kinesthetic intelligence (picking up on body language and using appropriate touch to make a connection). A good flirt can scan a room and see all kinds of options for relationships!

And it doesnt have to be about finding your life-long-or even all-night-long-romantic partner. You can use mindfulness and flirting to help you create more meaningful connections in a playful way with your neighbor, your grocery clerk, your barista, even someone waiting next to you in line.

Dont think of flirting as something only desperately single people do. No, no, no. Consider it a tremendous exercise in interpersonal mindfulness.

The first step in flirting is noticing something. The blue of your waiters eyes? The necklace your dry-cleaning lady is wearing? Your childs teachers smile?

Next step: Mentioning it. A quick and sincere comment like Nice shirt! is enough to create a connection and open up a conversationand really, thats the general goal of flirting.

Mindfulness of others is a powerful skill that can help you build relationships in all settings. Flirting is nothing more than being aware of others and taking advantage of what you notice in order to connect.

Who said mindfulness has to be quiet, solitary and inner-directed? It can be spirited, social, and downright sexy.

Notice. Smile. Connect. Repeat.

Get out there and seize the moment!

Maya Talisman Frost

Maya Talisman Frost calls herself "the Mind Masseuse"--just for fun. She has taught thousands of people how to pay attention.

Through her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she offers fun, creative and powerful eyes-wide-open alternatives to meditation. Trained in mediation and conflict resolution, Maya has a degree in psychology and Asian studies, certification in mind/body fitness, a passion for neuroscience, and a 30-year meditation practice.

Maya recognizes that meditation, though extremely beneficial, doesn't appeal to everyone, and she zeroes in on the concept that we can develop greater mindfulness in a number of creative ways. She focuses on multiple intelligences theory--the idea that we are smart in eight different areas--and offers all kinds of tips and techniques to make mindfulness FUN.

Yes, FUN. No need to get so darn serious, she says. We were truly mindful as children, and we don't have to try so hard or take ourselves so seriously. The secret? Recognizing that mindfulness is the very essence of fun, and learning how to create awareness using the very activities that captivate us naturally.

So, if you're not into sitting still, staying silent, or closing your eyes, don't worry. There are literally HUNDREDS of ways for you to develop greater awareness and pay attention to what matters most. All you need is a reminder to play with mindfulness.

Maya lives with her family in Mazatlan, Mexico, where she happily meets clients from around the world. She offers ebooks and ecourses guaranteed to help you become calm, clear and creative. She also trains clients through phone sessions and customized "playshops" held in various locations around the world.

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