As we all begin a new year have you considered what it would be like to begin a new relationship as well?

No, I dont mean leaving the current relationship to begin a new one, which is often just a geographical change anyway.

Heres what I do mean: have you considered what it would be like to organize your resolutions and goals for the new year around your couple relationship?

My belief is that we make the choice and decision to be married and/or part of a couple each and every day. So what would it be like if you made both the decision and the choice, each day in the coming year to:

• Make your relationship and family your most important job.

• Put hands and feet on and live out your vows

• Contribute your absolute very best to your partner and relationship.

• Daily meet the emotional needs of your partner (if you dont know what they are, ASK!)

• Relate to your partner in their own unique love language.

• Have the guts to ask your partner the question How am I doing as a spouse/partner? (gulp!)

My belief is if you take action on and use just one of these suggestions in the coming year, you just might like the new relationship you can create.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com