Can you say what you mean and have your partner hear what you mean? Conscious Listening is critical to the success of Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship. Both partners must take a role in speaking and listening. You will always have issues, thoughts, feelings, and problems, on your Journey from I-TO-WE, but you will not be able to resolve them without effective communication skills and techniques. This assessment helps you recognize the elements of communication in which you shine, and the elements that need attention.

This free set of assessments offers you the chance to find powerful answers. If you are willing to take the time to reflect on these questions, discuss them, and be honest with yourselves and each other, it can help you on your journey to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship so you can be

The adventure of life gives us the incredible opportunity to learn and grow as individuals. I like to say that we do not stop learning, stretching, growing, maturing, and changing until we are 6 feet under. What happens so often is we go through life unaware that we dont know what we don't know. In this fast-paced world, many of us do not have or take the time to sit, take a deep breath, and really think about the statements addressed in these assessments. We usually do not reflect on and consider the impact the answers to these statements can have on our relationship. We must gain the awareness, learn the techniques, and practice the skills to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship.

Take your time to think about each statement and be honest. One partner should use a black pen and the other partner a red pen. Rate your degree of agreement for each statement on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being a definite yes and 1 being a definite no. Write your score on the first line to the left of each statement. The second line is for your partner's score.

You may find it difficult to give certain statements a low score. You may worry that your response will hurt or offend your partner or create conflict. Honesty, however, is critical for the success of the Co-Create a Conscious Relationship program. Also, no matter what score your partner writes down, be supportive; do not get defensive, resentful, or angry. Thank him or her for being courageous and honest. All of the topics in this assessment series are covered in detail, with exercises, in my book The Journey from I-TO-WE.

Conscious Listening

_____ _____ - 1 - My partner and I know how to ask for a discussion appointment.

_____ _____ - 2 - My partner and I listen to each other when we speak.

_____ _____ - 3 - We reflect back to our partner that we understand his or her message.

_____ _____ - 4 - We validate each other's points of view.

_____ _____ - 5 - We show empathy for each others thoughts and feelings.

_____ _____ - 6 - We do not get defensive or use verbal darts, jabs, judgments, or disrespectful remarks.

_____ _____ - 7 - We do not criticize, minimize/invalidate each others thoughts or feelings.

_____ _____ - 8 - We give each other all the time we need to finish communicating a thought or feeling.

_____ _____ - 9 - We have safe, honest, peaceful, respectful, and loving discussions.

_____ _____ - 10 - When we are listening to each other, we always say, Please, tell me more.

_____ _____ - Total Score

You have 10 statements for a total possible score of 100. If your total is:

80 or higher -- You scored in the upper percentile Congratulations! You have obviously taken the time to work, ensuring your relationship has the best chance to be successful. Though your relationship is strong, it can only benefit from gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. Good luck in Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship!

60 79 -- You scored in the average range Congratulations! Re-read the statements you scored low on and take the time to learn how to raise your score. Consider Co-Creating a Conscious Relationshipthrough gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. You and the relationship will be much stronger on The Journey from I-TO-WE.

0 59 -- You scored in the lower range Congratulations! You now know where you need to take the time to closely examine these areas of your relationship. It would benefit both of you to think about these statements, and work toward Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship through gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. Commit to each other to give unselfishly and unconditionally to do whatever you need to do to make each other feel safe, loved and cared for

Glenn Cohen

Glenn Cohen is a professionally licensed relationship coach through the Relationship Coaching Institute and completed his coaching proficiency skills through the Coach?s Training Institute. His personal life challenges inspired his study of the dynamics of relationships and the complex emotional factors, which contribute to successful communication, peace, joy, and happiness versus disappointment, frustration, resentment, and conflict.

Through research and successfully coaching couples, Glenn developed the principles and methodology of the ?Co-Create a Conscious Relationship?? program. In addition to coaching couples, today Glenn trains other coaches, healthcare professionals and religious counselors on the use of the ?Co-Create a Conscious Relationship?? program for pre-marital and committed couples.

He attended the University of South Carolina and holds a Bachelor of Science degree from the University of Texas. Through his experiences and years of research, he was inspired to create a program that encompassed the ?best of the best? from other professionals and his own personal journey. This all-inclusive, comprehensive manual has been praised by professionals and clients alike.

Glenn Cohen?s proven methods have resulted in clients creating a happier and more satisfying life. The results offer a solid foundation for relationships that embrace safety, friendship, trust, respect, admiration, joy, passion, and love.

Glenn Cohen currently resides in Charleston, South Carolina, where he continues his private practice coaching individuals and couples. Glenn coaches clients from all over the country via telephone and the internet. You may contact him for individual coaching, couples coaching, a speaking engagement, seminars, or workshops.

Glenn Cohen "I-TO-WE" Relationship Coaching? Phone: 843-852-9828 gcohen@itowe.org i-to-we-relationship-coaching.com